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מצוה גדולה להיות בשמחה תמיד
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DISCLAIMER: Questions on Jewish Law (Halacha), I will try to answer to the best of my ability. Note that my understanding may not be accurate nor be the final word on asked topic. One should consult an Orthodox Rabbi before drawing any conclusions.
Parents look for the ‘perfect’ match for their children. Once they’ve found one (often through a shadchan - matchmaker) they do a LOT of research about the potential marriage prospect. They more or less interrogate his/her rabbis, family members, friends, etc. And when everything sounds okay they set up a meeting between the guy and girl.
Then they will meet and see if it ‘clicks’. If it does, they will meet each other another few times. And if they both agree they will engage.
However, if either one of them (that is, the guy or girl) doesn’t want they are not forced to. So it’s not completely ‘arranged’. The free will is still there. :)