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Exactly. That was one of the points I was trying to make.
On the one hand it would definitely be more beneficial for the children. But on the other hand it would also be very confusing. The chassidic world is very family oriented, with large families; grandparents, uncles, aunts and lots of nephews/nieces, etc.
Children with only one ‘Chassidic-side’ will always have to wonder why there is either ‘nothing’ from the other side, or - perhaps even more confusing - why they are goyim.
That being said, one side of the family being non-Jewish will also make a Chassidishe chinuch (education/raising of the children) harder. For, if the convert is still in touch with the family there will always be ‘outside’ (i.e non-Jewish) influences. The children will see and hear things they would never ever see/hear in the Chassidic world, etc. Even if the parents don’t allow their non-Jewish family members to ‘preach’ to/influence the children, they would still be vulnerable to it.
And then of course there is the problem a lot of geirim have. Something for which I really admire a lot of these converts. That is, the family’s resistance towards their new lifestyle. Most geirim have family members (some even the whole family) who are very much against Yiddishkeit. Those family members would definitely try to ‘talk’ to the children. Even if they won’t, they could offer them treife candies and other goodies. Though the latter is also a problem with having goyishe (or even secular Jewish) relatives in general.
In any case, we wouldn’t leave our little children alone with non-Jews. No matter how friendly they are. Not because we hate them, but because they don’t fully understand/know Jewish law and it’s not good for the chinuch.
Can you imagine how hard this would be for a non-Jewish grandparent? I’ve heard from a friend of mine, who is a geir tzedek and married (to a giyores), how hard it is for them. Because the fact that he became Jewish and Chassidish doesn’t mean he doesn’t love his family anymore. But for chinuch-purposes he just can’t visit his non-Jewish family with his children. Nor can they come to where he lives (more or less in a Chassidic ‘stronghold’). Even when they meet, he cannot leave his children alone with them. And his aunts and grandmother cannot even touch his children (who are small boys).
So you can see how confusing all of this can be.
These converts are truly children of Avrohom Avinu. Having left their homes and families behind to live a pure and holy life of Torah and Mitzvos! How wonderful must their chelek be in olam habo!